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Emotionally Focused Therapy® 4-day Externship

July 14, 2020 @ 9:00 am - July 17, 2020 @ 5:30 pm

$650.00 – $850.00


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Learn and experience how to do emotionally focused therapy, for couples therapy AND now Individual Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy

4-day Beginning Externship:

Now including EFT for Couples, Families, and Individuals

825 Hawthorne Drive, Whitworth University MFT Tacoma Building

Spokane, WA 

Now Held Online Tuesday-Friday, July 14-17th 2020

26 Continuing Education hour (upon approval by WMHCA) for Washington State LICSW/A, LHMC/A, and LMFT/A (included in the cost).  9am-5:30 pm daily. Registration begins at 8:30 on Monday

Licensed Psychologists and licensed counselors from other states besides WA may pay separately from the event for 26 CE’s through R. Cassidy Seminars. Click Here to purchase CE’s. Please wait until 1 week after the externship is over to purchase them. 


Presented by:

Kathryn De Bruin, LMFT,

ICEEFT Certified Trainer

Kathryn DeBruin is a marriage and Family Therapist in California, and is a Certified EFT Trainer and Supervisor with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Having grown up in South Africa, she returns frequently to teach and train in her birth-home country. Kathryn is the founder of the EFT South Africa Community. Now as an American citizen, she has a full-time private practice in San Diego, CA, where she works with children, couples and families. Kathryn teaches Play Therapy at the University of California San Diego, in the Play Therapy Program, and practicum at Bethel University. She serves as clinical supervisor to the Alliant Couple and Family Clinic. For more information on Kathryn, visit her online at http://www.kathryndebruin.com

Overview of the Externship

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples is the leading form of more effective marital therapy treatments. EFT is a short-term (8-20 sessions) structured approach to couples therapy. There is a substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from marital distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. There is also research on the change process and predictors of success. A segment on EFT for individuals will also be included.

EFT is based on a clear, explicit attachment conceptualization of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment. EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients. Change strategies and interventions are specific and clear, and key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three stages of change.

The goals of EFT are to: 1) expand and re-organize key emotional responses; 2) create a shift in partner’s interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction; and 3) foster the creation of a secure bond between partners.

This 4-day beginning externship is designed to help therapists have an immersive didactic and experiential conceptualization of the EFT model. There will be lecture, role plays, handouts, group interactions and demonstrations with a live couple, to help the participant understand and be able to apply the principles of EFT in their own practice of couple therapy upon completion of this externship.

Over All Learning Objectives:

    • Demonstrate a thorough knowledge of the EFT model for couples
    • Conceptualize couple distress based on the EFT model, including attachment theory and primary emotions.
    • Develop skills in helping partners reprocess the emotional responses or patterns that maintain relational distress and disconnection.
    • Develop skills in helping partners shape new interaction patterns and bonding events.

Specific Learning Objectives for each day of the externship:

Day 1: Introduction to Attachment Theory & the Process of EFT

1. Outline attachment science as a guide to psychotherapy ― EFIT, EFCT, EFFT.

2. Describe the nature and causes of relationship distress.

3. Understand basic Attachment Theory and how it informs working with couples, dyads and individuals in EFT.

4. Understand and describe the systemic and experiential elements of EFT and the EFT Tango.

5. Understand and describe change factors involved in moving from distress to recovery.

6. Understand and describe the three Stages of EFT (refer to nine process Steps).

7. Learn and practice basic empathy and reflection of inner and between dramas that are central to the therapeutic process in EFT.

Day 2: Stage 1 ― Assessment & Alliance

1. Understand and practice assessment skills in EFT.

2. Understand and practice how to create a therapeutic alliance using: empathic attunement, validation, acceptance, genuineness, and Stage I of the EFT Tango.

3. Understand assessment and the EFT Tango as used with individuals in Stage One.

4. Understand and practice how to enter experience of partners to find out how each

constructs his/her experience of their relationship.

5. Understand and practice how to track and frame the sequences of interaction that

perpetuate distress and disconnection.

6. Understand and practice how to frame the negative cycle (e.g., pursue/withdraw)

emphasizing attachment needs (e.g., closeness, connection, importance of the other, fear of loss).

Day 3: Stage 2 ― EFT Interventions and Change Events

1. Understand and describe systemic and experiential theories that underlie EFT


2. Learn and practice the basic EFT interventions for assembling and deepening emotion, and micro interventions: reflection, validation, evocative responding, empathic conjecture, and heightening.

3. Learn and practice how to use RISSSC to heighten emotional experience.

4. Learn and practice how to facilitate Stage 2 interaction between partners by using


5. Learn how to put the interventions together to facilitate change events.

6. Be able to describe the three change events in EFT for couples: de-escalation, withdrawer engagement and pursuer softening.

7. Learn and practice the skills of evoking, assembling, and deepening emotion.

8. Learn and practice the skills of facilitating acceptance (Move 4 of the EFT Tango).

9. Learn to choreograph Stage 2 change events using enactments.

10. Learn how the EFT model is applied to the context of family relationships with both adult children and younger children.

Day 4: Becoming an EFT Therapist/Attachment Injuries

1. Learn the EFT Tango as applied to individuals in EFIT.

2. Understand attachment injuries from an Attachment Theory perspective.

3. Understand the steps toward resolving attachment injuries, creating forgiveness.

4. Describe key interventions with escalated couples.

5. Learn and practice EFT skills toward resolving attachment injuries.

6. Understanding an EFT approach to managing co-morbidities such as depression and Sexual dysfunction.

7. Outline the process of becoming an EFT Therapist.


July 14, 2020 @ 9:00 am
July 17, 2020 @ 5:30 pm
$650.00 – $850.00
Event Category:


EWNIEFT Community


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